To Those Who Are Lonely

To those who are lonely: 

You are not crazy. 

You are not desperate. 

You are not shameful. 

You are not weak. 

You are not worthless. 

You are not weird. 

You are not emotional. 

You are not alone in feeling alone. 

“Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone...” 

Genesis 2:18 

When God created His great beginning, he made a perfect world in which we could live. He then created the very first human being ever to walk His beautiful creation. Adam already walked with God, was close with God, had a perfect relationship with Him... 

...and still God said it was not good. Man was still alone, even with God. 

Coming from a place where I have experienced loss (and talking with others who have grieved a loss, too), it is exhausting for me to hear others try to “fix” a problem by saying “God is enough.” 

Well, yes. He is enough. Of course He’s enough. That was never a question. That isn’t the problem here. 

The reality is that humans crave and value community, whether they realize it or not. 

Humans were made for community.

Sometimes that means you need people in your life just to sit with you and say “I don’t understand what you’re going through, but that really must suck. Here’s some ice cream and a shoulder to cry on.” 

And this might surprise you. For that moment, that IS enough. 

We get so caught up in trying to solve each others’ problems. We try to simplify things and say “well, all things work together for His good.”

When honestly...sometimes this answer just doesn’t help anything. Sometimes we just need to say, “This world hurts and thankfully it is not our home, but until then we are together.” 

So to those who feel alone, this is not coming from a place of insecurity. This is normal. This is coming from a very valuable place in your heart that God has created. 

And if you need a shoulder to cry on, let’s get coffee sometime. 

Believe me... I get it!